Your Relationship

Ok, it is confession time.  If you will remember, my last blog post was about the woman who very rudely screamed at her husband for not holding tight to the water jug.  If you didn’t read that one, I would suggest you read it first and then come back here to read my confession concerning that post.

I was so worked up about that incident that I wanted to tell my husband how rude that woman had been.  I started to tell him that night when he got home but then stopped.  When I started to tell him about it, I realized that I had just spoken to him less than gently.  I couldn’t very well lambast a woman for disrespecting her husband after I had just disrespected mine.

Girls, it took me three days to find a time when I had been gentle enough for long enough that I felt I could share the story without feeling guilty about my behavior.  That was quite an eye opener!  We may think that we are being gentle with our words to our fiancés or that our comments are fine because we are just kidding.  How often do we say things that may hurt the one we love?  Pay attention this week to your words, your tone of voice, and your facial expressions.  I know I am going to!

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My son and I went to fill our water jugs the other day.  We had 5 to fill, so it was taking a few minutes.  While our jugs were filling, a woman and her husband came to the other spigot to fill theirs.  All of a sudden a strong wind blew in—pretty commonplace for West Texas.  One of the jugs belonging to the other couple blew a foot or two from them.  Sounds pretty mundane, doesn’t it?  Then you can imagine my surprise when the woman started shrieking at her husband to grab the jug.  Then she started to berate him with “Didn’t I tell you to hold onto the jugs until I was ready?  Why couldn’t you have just done like I told you?”

Now she may have been having a rough day. I’d like to give her the benefit of the doubt.  But I was appalled that she would speak to another human being like that, let alone her husband, let alone in public, let alone over a 50 cent water jug that was blowing a few feet away.  Not only did I wonder why she would be so hateful, but my son asked me why that lady yelled at the man like that.

I couldn’t get that couple out of my mind all day.  I felt sorry for him having to live with a woman like that who even strangers can tell has absolutely no respect for him.  If I as a bystander was embarrassed by her words, how must he have felt?  How can she expect him to love her as a husband should when she shows him less consideration than she was showing to a plastic jug of water?

Ladies—let’s focus this week on watching our tones.  Let strangers see us interact with our husbands and fiancés and think what a lucky man he is to have a wife who respects him so much.

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